The sharp kindness of the wishy-washy feminine

I’ve gotten a few new followers recently despite not posting anything, so I’m posting this to cull the herd. I’m probably one of the most left-apologetic people on the right.

The left and right are not exactly as opposed to one another as you might expect. For example. Suppose you are a very conservative woman. You want a husband who can be anything as long as he is NOT gay. How do you accomplish this? The naive approach would be to find the most conservative church and pick any man among them. But does this work? Is there a way to know? She cannot be sure because the same environment that most boldly and sincerely advocates against homosexuality is likely to breed a kind of undercurrent of gayness. And, because humans work in mysterious ways, she may be more likely to marry a gay man, rather than less. The best cover for a gay man who also gets a subversive kick out of infiltrating a church is marrying a conservative woman. If anyone finds out her husband is secretly gay, she’ll be very embarrassed and may work harder that the average woman to keep it a secret—which her gay husband will very much appreciate.

This woman will likely end up carrying in her womb her husband’s gay genes, which she despises. Think about that. She thought she just needed to find a straight man. But she messed up. Now she’s considering abortion. She assumed she was the most conservative woman, but that gay baby is sucking the nutrients out of her bones, and leaving the remains for mom.

Now suppose she decided instead to find a conservative husband in the gay Castro district in San Francisco. It would seem to be hard to find a straight man there, but if you did come across a man, and he said he was straight in a place that prides itself on gay pride, you’re probably talking to a genuinely straight man. He may not even realize she’s vetting him on his straightness. A man in Castro would never expect it.

My point is this: people are weird. And promoting something doesn’t automatically make that thing a reality. For conservative men, it is frustrating that women seem so willing to take the other side. But the reality is it’s of existential import to them that they do not reveal their own hand for fear of tipping the scales. And the best way to not reveal is to be kind and accepting of others while remaining certain about what you personally want in a partner.