Lady Gaga and Grimes both have songs about games. Love is a game, and it’s a cruel one. We don’t just want to settle. We want the best romantic partner we can ever get.
Can you win the love game? If you can, who's the loser? Suppose you steal a girl from a guy. Ok, so you’ve won a disloyal girl. Should you count this as a victory?
Suppose you manage to impress the girl of your dreams and she falls in love with you. Great, you’ve fooled her, and now you have to live with her. Again, did you win?
Ok, maybe the game isn’t between you and her, but between you and other men. But this doesn’t make sense either. We have an equal number of men and women. There’s no “winning” here. Everyone gets a gold star.
We can make love into a game of winners and losers by doing away with monogamy. This way a few men get most of the women. These guys win, and the rest of the men lose.
There’s another way to win at the game of love. If, on average, it takes 10 years to find the love of your life, then we can all win by finding ways to make it take less time. By solving this problem, we can solve a great deal of suffering.
We can solve this problem by introducing an incentive. In the past, youthful lust, rules around chastity, lack of birth control, and maybe even polygamy would have done it. But now there’s a new incentive: AGI.